The singer, coach, and actress Ana Abarca has created the space 'A Real Mom' with the goal of addressing motherhood from a more realistic perspective and avoiding idealization, as has been common for years. Ana emphasizes that motherhood is a solitary process, even when you have a partner, and highlights the importance of self-knowledge on this journey. She points out that many mothers feel guilty for working and facing the responsibilities of raising children alone, without receiving the same recognition as fathers.
Ana stresses the need to eliminate stigmas for both women and men who raise their children alone, as well as to stop overvaluing fathers for fulfilling their part in parenting, as it is their responsibility and not a favor. In this space, Ana also invites parents who, for different circumstances, find themselves raising children alone and lack guidance.
In 'A Real Mom', the aim is to accompany mothers and fathers in parenting, fostering an environment of mutual support and eliminating the idea that motherhood is always an idyllic path. Ana underscores the importance of facing together the challenges that arise in the parenting process, without overvaluing the experience or idealizing it. Additionally, she emphasizes setting boundaries through respectful parenting and promoting teamwork in raising children.
In her space, Ana advocates for supporting new mothers, fleeing from the romanticization of motherhood and avoiding expressions like "being a mother is the best thing that can happen to you in the world," as it is not always true. She proposes reflecting on the importance of conscious parenting and the value of effort and responsibility in the upbringing of children, promoting a culture that pushes away the idea of deserving everything without effort. In short, Ana invites society to take collective responsibility for fostering respectful parenting and to leave behind harmful patterns in raising new generations.
